All couples go through challenges, and the Marriage and Family Therapists at MFTWNY have dealt with the issues that you are facing. We are not general therapists who work with couples; we are trained, experienced couples therapists. We combine our extensive experience in couples therapy with a hopeful, optimistic approach. Whether the problem you are dealing with happened three weeks ago or 30 years ago, couples counseling can help you learn to change, grow and heal within your relationship.
In our sessions, we’ll address each individual’s needs, worries and wishes. When you work with a therapist who truly understands and balances your needs with that of your partner, it becomes easier to identify and work through the root causes behind your relationship struggles. We use a strength-based focus to identify those areas of your relationship that have helped you recover in the past. This allows us to develop strategies together that will help you get where you want to be now and in the future. It is important to remember the good, satisfying parts of your relationship – especially when you are struggling through difficult times.
You may feel like you and your partner have grown apart, like they are not the person you married. The truth is, neither you nor your spouse are the same person. As you each face challenges in your personal and career lives your thoughts and behaviors evolve. Couples therapy can help you develop important insights into yourself and your partner that are affecting your relationship dynamic.
You have to believe that you can grow and change in your relationship if you are actually going to do so. When both members of a couple bring some level of commitment to finding a solution, the results can be staggering. That is why our hopeful, encouraging therapists incorporate behavioral techniques and “homework” assignments like date night and assigned talk time. When you learn to listen to your partner – to talk about your needs and desires instead of your day at the office – you can develop a deeper, more flexible love and connection.
Even if you feel disconnected from your partner right now, with the help of a supportive and experienced therapist, it is possible to feel heard, understood and cared about again. You and your partner can develop new perspectives about your relationship and learn new tools that can help you identify, address and heal from the problems in your relationship.